How Do You Know That Someone Is Extraordinary? Here Are 5 Crucial Traits  That Identify Them

Have you ever worked with someone at your office and, within a few days, realized that they are extraordinary? Here are traits of extraordinary people.

Have you ever worked with someone at your office and, within a few days, realized that they are extraordinary? It has happened to me. And such people are hard to find. They ooze special behavioral abilities that are difficult to explain. 

Also, think about the top achievers in our world today. What makes them tick? There is something about their lifestyles and how they relate with others around them.

That is what we want to find out today as I take you through the rare qualities you can only find in extraordinary people:

1st trait: They know who they are – know your emotions, strengths, and weaknesses.

Take Cristiano Ronaldo, for example. Ronaldo is not one of the greatest football athletes by accident. He has successfully identified his strengths and weakness. 

TOPSHOT – Manchester United’s Portuguese striker Cristiano Ronaldo celebrates after scoring

A difficult childhood molded Cristiano. He would have chosen the easy path of resigning to the plight of his working-class parents. All he needed was to focus on his weaknesses. But he decided to go for his strong side. 

After a small inspiration from his dad, the young Ronaldo decided to focus on his passion and strengths while frowning on his weaknesses.

How about Jose Alberto “Pepe” Mujica? Mujica served as the 40th Uruguayan President from 2010 to 2015. He has received several honors since. Where did this guy get his extraordinary humility? He, at one point in his life, discovered who he truly was.

Pertinent questions

The journey to self-discovery might seem long, but it’s worth taking for these geniuses. What important questions do they ask themselves in the journey to uncover their best selves? Take a look at the four must-ask questions:

  • How do I change the status quo?
  • What steps can I take to adequately prepare for the challenge ahead of me?
  • Which specific aspects of me require immediate improvement?
  • What are the resources available for me to sharpen my skills and abilities?

2nd trait: Effective communication aimed at building meaningful relationships.

No single human can live in isolation. You need people to help you past the hurdles life throws at you. Poor communication will drive people away from you, alarmingly fast.

Outstanding individuals know this. They, therefore, make a conscious decision to watch how they speak and listen each time they have to. Extraordinary people communicate with four things in mind:

  • Appealing to people’s emotional needs – humans pretend to be objective and calm through words, in most cases. But their bodies will always say something different. Special people have mastered the science of body language. Emotions are visible through how we walk, sit, stand, and the look in our eyes.
  • Bonding and mutual understanding – people don’t easily open up to speak to you, not so? Champions are aware of this fact, and they use affection and warmth to ignite conversations and friendships.
  • Response speed – top performers are quick to answer phone calls and reply to their messages. If you are slack and slow to respond to people’s needs, you are quickly judged as rude and uncaring.
  • Understand first, then speak – if you are not ready to listen, then you are not ready to speak. Always listen to understand. Ordinary people listen with ready answers in mind.
MUNICH, GERMANY – FEBRUARY 15: Facebook founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg speaks during a panel talk at the 2020 Munich Security Conference (MSC) on February 15, 2020 in Munich, Germany. (Photo by Johannes Simon/Getty Images)

3rd trait: They are keen observers

If you have gone through formal education, you may have realized that students who top the class don’t easily get distracted by things happening around them. They want to concentrate on the topic at hand. No other thing is worth their time.  

Learning takes place mostly through observation. Glances help us in normal daily activities, but not when we need to understand. Long undistracted observation spells will add something new to what you already know. 

Look at a criminal investigator, for instance. They take their time following a suspect. The all-important trail can sometimes take months or even years. All this while, they are observing the suspect’s actions, speech, and activity. In the end, the target is nabbed using information collected from routine activities.

SAN FRANCISCO – JUNE 07: Apple former CEO Steve Jobs holds the new iPhone 4 after he delivered the opening keynote address at the 2010 Apple World Wide Developers conference June 7, 2010 in San Francisco, California. Jobs kicked off their annual WWDC with the announcement of the new iPhone 4. (Photo by Justin Sullivan/Getty Images)

4th trait: They are not afraid to act

As they say, speech is easy, action is hard. It is true. Achievers act on their words and conclusions. They possess the rare ability to put their money where their mouth is. 

Extraordinary people don’t defer their actions. They strike the iron while it is still hot. If you say you will be hitting the gym for two hours from 5.00 pm daily, then why not stick to that schedule? Any successful athlete will tell you that this is how it works. There is no magic wand to becoming that sportsman extraordinaire.

5th trait: Mental strength and resilience

What does your life look like after experiencing a failure? Extraordinary people know that failing once does not mean failing all the time. 

Humans can make mistakes. If you make an error once, or twice, make efforts to avoid doing it the third time. And don’t get depressed because you could not succeed in all your attempts.

Extraordinary people not only find resilience through failure, but they also know how to inspire people that need strength through difficult times. 

Treat others how you want to be treated yourself. It always comes back to you as a ‘blessing.’ If you can’t give it to others, don’t expect it back.